I’LL TAKE THREE PLEASE

It doesn’t even matter if it’s just a duo, trio or even a quad-riplio-thing-is-notevenaword. Sometimes I wish that I had that one best friend or group of friends that would just break out into a musical with me, right then and there. Just for the hell of it. Lol, I’m just kidding of course.

I wish for that everyday.

*Cue the poker-face.gif*

I blame you High School Musical. But seriously… That’d be so great on so many levels.

FASHION . TECHNOLOGY . DESIGN

They say to do what you love the most (job-wise), right? Because if you love it enough, it won’t feel like a job. Well, they’re the three main things that I love the most and they’re the three main parts of my dream job.

Anyway, I was creating my bucket list the other day, mainly because I was bored out of my mind, but also because my thoughts and goals were all over the place. Then my future job came to mind and I’m absolutely clueless when it comes to this subject because I only change my mind about a million times a day. So instead of thinking about a job overall, I instead listed all the things that I find the most interesting and came to the conclusion of fashion, technology and design.

And here’s why…

I’ve always been into fashion. I don’t know why, I guess it’s just something that I look forward to a lot. If you ever see me around, my clothes are only ever casual because I really don’t like to stand out right now. In the future, yes, but for now I just want to blend in. Unless it’s a formal occasion. If it’s formal then I’ll go all out with my whole outfit; head to toe.

Designing is literally my number one passion. It doesn’t matter whether it’s food, coding, graphic design, clothes, interiors, The Sims expansion pack, Lego and so on; I love them all (though I haven’t played with the Lego in years). Like lately, I’ve started designing and creating my own clothes for me (and my family when they want something) to wear because I’ve gotten really picky about things such as sizes, patterns, MONEY, hem lines, feature placements, fabrics, etc. Plus, mum has piles and piles of old clothes that she no longer uses so I like to get creative with them because, as boring as it may sound, I find it so fun.

Then there’s the technology side; coding. This was pretty much the thing that I learnt to fall in love with. I resented it so much at first because, back in high school, they’d messed up my timetable for the new school year which meant that I had to choose between either IT or something that I thought was equally as boring (can’t remember what it was) but I had two friends in that class so I though, “Eh, why not.” But once I started seeing what you could do with a little bit of coding, I started getting more and more into it. Don’t get me wrong though, I still hated the assignments since I had to do what the teacher wanted in an assignment and only just passed because of it but before that, I just always thought that it was for hackers and computer “nerds” that had no life. That’s literally what I thought of it so thank you high school for stuffing up my grade 11 time table. I’m being serious. Thank you. I wouldn’t have known about all the perks of coding without you and because of it, I’m now studying at university for a Bachelor’s Degree in IT.

But with all this being said, I still don’t know exactly what job I actually want to pursue. I just know that I want to be able to combine my three interests of fashion, technology and design so that I can work with all three. There’s probably so many different pathways this can lead to and new jobs are being created everyday, especially ones to do with technology, so there’s bound to be something. You wouldn’t happen to have any ideas would you?

Talk to you next time. x

NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND: YOU MUST BE LESBIAN

JUST TO CLARIFY: There is NOTHING wrong with being lesbian. I just had to make that clear. And this post goes for guys as well. I was just relaying from my thoughts and experiences when I was madly typing everything out. Okay, let’s go.

“So you’ve never had a boyfriend before?!? Oh… are you lesbian?”

This is the conclusion that almost everyone seems to come to every time it’s known that I’ve never had a boyfriend. Some people ask the orientation question straight up while others let it linger on until they feel the time’s right. Okay, so technically it goes a little more like this:

Them: Have you ever had a boyfriend before?

Me: Nope. Never, or at least not that I know of…

Them: Really!?! *Gobsmacked look* Why not!?

Me: Because I just never have…?

Them: Oh… are you lesbian?

Then, depending on how I feel, I’ll either tell them straight up, linger on telling them the answer to mess with them, ask them what they think the answer is to keep them guessing or play along with it and see where it goes. Then, during the end of the conversation, they always give me that weirded out look for never of having had a boyfriend. But that’s not even the part that annoys me. What annoys me the most is that afterwards, whether it’s 5 seconds later or 5 days later, they’ll come up and bombard me with:

“We need to find you a boyfriend! You have no idea what you’re missing out on!”

“I need to set you up with someone! Can I set you up with someone!?” 

“We need to go boyfriend hunting for you.”

That’s the part that really annoys me. Like, I know they only mean well most of the time but why can’t you just let me be single in peace? What is so wrong about being single? Nothing. So why are you trying to make it sound like it’s a prerequisite to life?

I used to hate this question because, when you’re young, you’re influenced easily and this was (and still is) something that’s looked down upon for the stupidest reasons such as, “you haven’t lived until you’ve gone out with someone!”. Alright, um… thanks for the insight up-and-coming-Ghandi.

I remember going onto Yahoo Answers and basically venting, “14 and never had a boyfriend”, “15 and never had a boyfriend”, “16 and never had a boyfriend”, asking if it was weird (yeah, I really did that…). All the answers would tell me not to worry about it and that it’s not a big deal but I’d still never believe them because I’d already had the impression that it was a burden. All I wanted to do was fit in and while I acted like I didn’t care, I secretly wanted a boyfriend just to say that I have/have had a boyfriend. That was literally my reason, just to get everyone off of my back. Now that I’ve grown up and learnt more, I really don’t care and neither should anyone else. Those Yahoo answers were right. You won’t be a burden or fall down the “social ladder” because of it. You’ll just be you.

Sure, there’s perks to being in a relationship but only a relationship that you want. Don’t try to force someone into a relationship just because “everyone else is doing it”. You’re doing no one any favors here unless you have a license to cupid and they’re happy with it. Don’t try to degrade someone for a reason as stupid as this. Just like relationships, there are perks to being single too. It’s not a one way street. Everyone’s different and everyone handles things differently in their own time, in their own way. Don’t try to force your version of “happiness” onto someone that’s already happy. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t. It’s not social suicide and it’s not a big deal unless you make it out to be one.

So what if they think you’re lesbian? It’s not a bad thing. Turn it into a joke for yourself. So what if they think it’s weird? Who gave them the upper hand when it came to your “well-being”? Are they really the type of people you want to surround yourself around?

I know it’s really hard to get over things like this when you’re constantly surrounded by the judgements of others but as long as you’re confident about it like there’s nothing wrong with it (because there isn’t), people will change their negative views on it. They’ll still judge you at first, no doubt, because it’s seared into their minds but once they see that you can somehow still magically “live life” without a boyfriend, their opinions will slowly change. If it doesn’t, then that says a lot more about them than it does about you.

I’m 18, am happy right now and have never had a boyfriend. That doesn’t satisfy you? Sue me.

P.S. OMG, this post is all over the place…

DREAMING OF THE CITY LIGHTS

Maybe I’ve watched too much Gossip Girl or Sex and the City but I turn into the biggest tourist whenever I get to visit the city (or any place really). I got to visit the city a few days ago and no matter how many times I go, my phone will always come out to take about 50+ pictures or videos of the most random things because I just find it all so exciting and new that I want to have something to remember it by other than my memory (although I’ll admit that I do go a little overboard sometimes). I see a tree with lights in it? I’ll take 10 pictures of it. Spot a bike? I’ll stand next to it and take a few “incognito” selfies. I’m telling you, I am the biggest tourist ever. My eyes wander over everything.

I’ve always been a sucker for the city, especially the way it looks in the evening! The sky gets darker, people get dressed up for dinner or clubs nearby, there’s more diversity in every single aspect -no doubt-, the most beautiful architecture lining the streets and pathways, the colours of the night lights begin to appear and light up the way. Plus, they place them so perfectly that it lights up in just the right places against just the right things. Ugh, it’s so mesmerising to just look at. It’s like one massive grown ups’ playground.

There are so many different places to visit in the city and everything’s literally just around the corner or a 5-10 minute walk/drive away. Bookstores, sky scrapers with million dollar views, every type of museum that exists, restaurants, fashion stores, parks, home department stores, leisure centres, clubs, spas, arcades, libraries, shopping centres and so on; all right there. We don’t even have some of these in the small town where I live. I mean, the closest arcade is like 3 towns away, we have the tiniest shopping centre unless you drive 40 minutes down the coast, there’s only two main parts of town at night and I don’t even think we have a museum? I mean, I love that we have an endless supply of beaches, hidden nature spots and the attitude of a small town is generally more laid back but I just dream of so much more!

And there’s the added fact that you’re less likely to bump into people you know but don’t talk to when you’re in the city. I swear, this happens every single time I go out here. I want to go to places where this doesn’t happen on a daily basis. I want to feel the anonymity of no one knowing who I am so I’m free to be who ever I want, act however I want; no strings attached. It just makes me feel a lot more confident when no one knows me.

This is all probably just my small town syndrome talking but I’m SO in love with big cities. I’m just so in awe of it all. After all, we all want what we don’t have, right?